Saturday 22 March 2014

body image issue

In this blog I want to talk to you all about body image. It's a topic I feel strongly about, so many girls and guys are worried about how They look. Society has an effect on us all when it come down to are image.I know me and some of my friends Have really been affected by Low self-esteem and body image issues.  I think won reason why so many of use have these  issue is because society has this perfect ideal looking person that is portrayed in the Media. over the years we have been conditioned in to thinking that people should look a serten way. if you don't look a sertern way and you look supposedly different then you get singled out and picked on. if you have a  womanly figure people think your fat when your not.
 Young people want to luck like that person on the magazine.  they try and make them self look like exactly like what they see. Witch is Impossible because the Media  have made models and celebrates look like that by air brushing. They use technology to create the perfect image the perfect person.as a society we think it  wrong to be curvy and to have a bum and boobs. Why is it that society thinks that stick thin people  are good looking un sexy.? It always the thin girl that look toned or the guy with abs that have the main roles. curvy girls are always the best friend in the the supporting role.

for me growing up i got bullied about my image i was the quirky girl with round  glasses and braces
i remember if when i was a kid and looking at people in movies and saying i wish i look that beautiful
and thin i thought i was fat at the age of 8. i wonted to look like the other girls at school. i wonted to be perfect. i remember when i was a young teen i had just started middle school  i put on a Stone and i cried i thought i was fat and made my self lose the Stone again. i honestly thought i was ugly i had more people saying that i didn't look nice than i had saying i was pretty.
 my sister thought she was fat she would say to me i need to lose wight am not thin enough  I'm not pretty. my sister as always been sick thin and petty i wanted to be like her. i wanted to grow up looking like Hannah Montana or any of these other TV Disney stars.  i would binge eat and then i would stop eat for to days because i felt guilty i was like this for many years . i never felt pretty enough even to this day.

last September i stop eating probably at all i would hardly eat anything, and if i did i have to make my self sick and or take laxatives. i look in the mirror and say i look ugly you cant see what other people see. i look on the Internet for ways of losing weight. id take lose wight pills. i wanted to look like anything but me i would of taken plastic surgery if some had offed it to me. all because i wanted to look like this perfect that i soure on a magazine and on TV. i punished my self for the way i looked, i thought it was the reason now won wonted to go out with me. my self esteem was at rock botem. I got diagnosed with a eating disorder in December last year.

i still have my eating disorder but i have manged to get to a place were i don't feel bad and insecure with out make up i never use to be able to go out side with spending a hour or tow on my appearance i was so paranoid about how i looked. i try now  and love my self as i am there surten thing i cant change about how i look. am never going to look like that girl on the magazine because the girl on the magazine doesn't look like that either.  i would like to point out, i no i have a big problem with my image which i am constantly working to try and improve the way i see my self.

i have friends who have had  smiler problems to me, and it horrible to see. they cant see what i see how  pretty they look. i believe every won look pretty in there own right. and beauty is a state of mind. to me some who as no hair is beautiful, some who as scars for some reason or a unusual mark on there face it dose make them any the less. pretty and stunning and beautiful.

It horrible how society see image and how it controls a lot of are life's. it horrible haw it afect young people as young as 6 how developed eating problems and self image issues it not right. yes there are people  who have positive views on image and serten people and organisations are changing people mides about the way they see image. but it not enough we need to more to raise awareness and teach young people about positive ways to see body image.  society and conditioned and brain washed are mind in to thinking and seeing thing in a particular way.

i would love to see a magazine that  has pictures of girls and guys wearing no make up and showing people how to look after you skin in heathey ways. show people that is OK to have curves and you don't have have abs to look sexy.

and to everyown   out there who don't think there beautiful or pretty you are don't listen to what any won else says !  love is loder than the presure to be perfect :)

Friday 21 March 2014

invisable problems

hey i want to talk to all my readers to day about invisible problems. It difficult having a invisible problem or disability,  i mean if u have a physical disability every wons all over you. people feel Riley sorry for the person in the wheelchair or who is blind or  other physical conditios. there fisable to people so the under stand more and they can see that there dealing with a lot.
but for some like me who have hidden problems there not fisable to the eye nesserlaly. beause most of my conditions are all to do with the brain, people can't see what a tuff time some won  like me is going through. It essayer for people like  me to hide what there going through so people don't know.
In the past i have had people not believe me when i say what i have been diagnosed with like bi polor or dyslexia. they will desmiss it because the cant see anything wrong with me. In the past i have had a lot of prejudiced offer my codistions. when i was a kid in second grade my school dident belive me when i got diagnose with dyslexia and dyspraxia. they said there was no such thing and it was an exuse that i didn't try hard enufe. soome told me the reson i was so clumsy was becouse i was fat. quite a few people have come up with theorys of why am like haw i am and trying to dismiss my diagnoises . a long the lines of she just stupid slow docent try hard enuve, she makes her self low she dose it for attention. i could go on for ever with exampules. i think some of the hate and prejudice i got was because of ignorantce, there isent a lot of  comon knowledge about some of the isuse i face. people defanatly need more education on such issue as Bipolor and  borderline personalatly desoder and any other disapilatys that are not well kown about.

i wont people to relise people like me are dealing with a hell of a lot and just because you cant see the  strugels dosent mean there not there.  for me i have seven diagnosed isuse all of wich are manly to do with how you brain functions. for the people who dont no no  i have bipolar, eating desoder. borderline personalty desoder, erlings, dyslexia and dyspraxia and dyscalculia. plus all the isuse every won cope with. i dont think people rellly relse what a constent strugle it is for some like me i mean just having to deal with one is enove to cope with. copeing with  my life can be really tuff it feels like a constent big war that you lose most of the time. you win ocasonly and for to second your ok and you lose it agin. dont get me wrong i have lurnt so much having all this isuse am a better person. it hard having inviiabale problems people just see a normal girl on the out side. people dont seam to under stand so
 just remmber never juge a book by it cover u never now whar that person is deling with. just be mindful of the fact that person could be dealing with somthing,be careful about jumping to conclutions.
you dont no what that person hiding or going through at home or in there minds. take a minnute and think befor you hastely juge and think you no that person. never belittle what some going through it may seam like somthing small to you but it not to a nother person.

if u want to know about any more about the conditions i mestions in my blog i would be happy to  try and expaine in more detail.

Sunday 16 March 2014

my best friend


OK this blog post is dedicated to won special person she my best friend. I met her last year in September it was Cinda weird how we met, i was in my local Conner store and i clapsed at the check out. She was the won serving me, she came to my rescue straight a way along with a few other kind people. she walk me back home and we immediately clicked it was kinda serial for me i didn't think she would ever talk to me again. but her i am now writing about her and my friendship 6 months down the line and were best friends. we have both been through so much together  over the last couple of months, but we have stuck by each other through every thing. i keep on worrying when she going to leave and turn here  back on me, it never happened that true friends for you they don't leave they say and stand by you. i never experience anything like this friendship before i feel so lucky. she tough me so much, she always reminds me to be my self and how to have banter and a laugh with people. i learnt haw to except my self and not were makeup i learnt so much from her.

i am so grateful to of met her and to have her in my life even just as a best friend. i really do think are friendship is something special and Unix, i try and explain to other people they cant quite believe what a good relationship we have going. we no each other like a book u no off by heart, she never judges me and support me through everything.she dose annoy me some time aspeshly when she can't  see how beautiful she is. she can be a bitch some time and some times very silly much i fear for her a lot
 i wanted to tell u all about this because  this girl has had such a impact on my life in so many ways. she my inspiration she amazing and unic and definitely not normal. i love her for who she is flaws and all i wouldn't  change a thing. she help me get through some really dark times and that am thankful for. she brightens my days up she can make me smile even when i don't  feel like it. she so talented and beautiful in side and out she the best thank you for always sticking by me. i appreciate you and every thing you do ilove you and need you more than you now i will love you uncoditnoly i alway be ther and ill stand by you no mater what your amazing to me never foget that

and to all of you out there appreciate the people you have around not tack them for granted cherish and love them and saver every moment when your with them.



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Hey this blog is going to be about family and what i consider family to be.
people have all sort of view on what family is, when i was a kid i though that the normal family was a mum and a dad and two kid. i thought had to be related by marriage or blood. i got told you don't chose your family well that true, but the thing i release is just because your related doesn't make you family. i think been related and family are to different things. to me now family means loyalty unconditional love and support and acceptance. it all about been there for some now matter what been there when there isn't any won else,family sick up for each other. so to me family can be a groupie of people who aren't related a best friend or teacher. what am trying to say is you can make a family out of anything it doesn't have to be as structure to say i have a mom or a dad.i think family means so much more than that. i don't think there is such a thing as a typical family there all different.

am proud of my family even tho my family is not  a what you might call normal. i love all of them ifen tho they push my buttons.  theirs my trans mom my cross dressing dad and my birth mum. sian the sister i never had that i can call up even after we haven't spoken in years and it be like we never stop speaking. that what family is about. my real sister who i hate most of the time but love dearly. my music teacher at school and my tutor  they both are family to me to. a  my best friend Emma who feels like family even tho i haven't known her that long.

 Am lucky to have my family they have help me through so much .  am very grateful for them ifen if they do annoy me all the time. i find with family you don't always want them around but you no there there when you need them.
never take your family for granted respect them and love them and don't be ashamed of them they might not be what society expect a family to be. always sick by them and  show you are proud.